Self-pity(2 sections)
Hellen Keller, blind and deaf from birth.
There is a difference between recognizing a problem, then creating a solution ........
.......versus weaving a web of self pity.
Self-pity is a tool used to benefit the creator of the self-pity.
While it is natural to recognize difficulties and search for the reasons for our difficulties,
it doesn't take much too much self-examination to convince ourselves
that we are indeed worthy others' pity and deserve others' assistance.
But then, what if the help doesn't come?
Short sermon: To be a truly free, truly self-directed adult, we need to avoid self-pity.
and instead, seek an approach to life that focuses on solutions.
But then, what if the help doesn't come?
And what if men quit being real men - by continually seeking the help of others?
I can't think of one addiction that didn't use self-pity to gain control over its human.
Short sermon: To be a truly free, truly self-directed adult, we need to avoid self-pity.
and instead, seek an approach to life that focuses on solutions.
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Self-disclosure
Having said that, understand that self-pity is different from certain types of self-disclosure.
There are times when sharing one's woes is the proper, logical and manly thing to do:
* Going to the Emergency Room after an accident is valid self-disclosure. (dial 911)
* Suicide counseling is valid self-disclosure. (dial 988)
* Support-group participation involves valid self-disclosure.
* Marriage counseling involves valid self-disclosure.
* Hitching a ride to buy gas is valid self-disclosure.
* Admitting to a mistake, fault or flaw is valid self-disclosure.
* Contacting authorities about childhood sexual abuse, even after several years.
This is valid self-disclosure.
Perverts usually don't stop with one victim, they find new targets as their former victims age-out.
Do what you can to keep them from victimizing others. Report them.